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Life Change Checklist

The Worry Chair Tool

The Impoverished Millionaire

The Problem and The Opportunity

What's "not wrong"?

Conscious Living List

Are you finding your feet in a new life space?

Are you entering into a time of significant life change and experiencing a divorce, a move, a new job or a change in life role?

Have just come through some major life change and still feel a little off balance?

Or do you feel the need for some support to help get your life back into focus?

Change brings loss and loss brings grief, but loss can also represent freedom, and change can mean the start of something new.

Life Change Checklist

Have you experienced, the following:

· A relationship separation, divorce or relationship change

· A change in your health status

· A move to a new country or city

· A change in life role

· Family stress or change in situation

· A redundancy or retirement

· Major life change

Experiencing life change

Would you like companionship and affirmation as you experience the life change process?

A Coach can help you re-calibrate your inner compass that points the way forward on your journey.

This is not a time for packaged answers or formulas but for reflection and space to reconcile yourself to a new way of living.

Your Coach can offer a patient ear and support as you find your feet in a new life space.

Experiencing Life Change?

How To Help Find Your Feet.

Harley M Storey

M.I.C.F, A.C.E (NZSC)

Life & Career Coach

Life Change Tools

Everyone deals with change and loss in their own way.

It is not appropriate to suggest superficial tools if you are experiencing significant life change, sometimes the only healer is the passage of time.

However, at times of great need we are very motivated to discover fresh perspectives and new ways of looking at old problems, and so we offer the following tools with the hope that they may be of help you.

The Worry chair

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This is a powerful tool which reveals profound insights into what we worry about

· position a real or imaginary chair in front of you

· place on the chair your biggest current worry or concern

· now imagine a bigger worry (one that you don't already have!)

· what are you thinking about? you have probably discovered that your previous worry, which was your biggest worry at the time, has now been displaced by your imagined bigger worry

· now chase away your imaginary bigger worry, and place your current biggest worry back on the chair

· now imagine that your current biggest worry has been resolved. Has your next biggest worry taken its place? Wouldn't you be worried about your next biggest worry if your current biggest worry was resolved? What does this tell you?

· place your biggest current worry or concern back on the chair

· try to leave it there and walk away smiling

The Impoverished Millionaire

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If someone came to your door and gave you $1,000,000 every day for a week and then stopped, would you be angry and distressed or thankful for having been given $1,000,000 every day for a week?

If you hadn't spent it what would you be after a week?

Even though you may not be receiving the $1,000,000 every day, aren't you grateful you received it for as long as you did?

The Problem and The Opportunity

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· I have lost, what have I gained?

· If every problem possesses the seeds of its own resolution, what is the opportunity in my problem, what is a possible resolution?

· What is something good about this situation, no matter how small or insignificant?

· Does this situation have a positive aspect?

· Can I open myself up to my feelings a little more? What is something I can do to help me get in touch with my feelings?

· Who can I turn to for support?

· What can I take from experiencing this? What can I learn? How can I grow?

· Am I flowing with the situation or fighting and resisting?

· How can I create faith for the future and strength to go on?

What's "not wrong"?

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The hardest arithmetic to master

is that which enables us to count our blessings.

Eric Hoffer

it is often very easy to answer the question "whats wrong" in our life. However, it is a wonderful thing to have a non-headache or a non-toothache but so often we do not think of the joy of not having these things until we experience them and then want them to go away.

Similarly, isn'the it wonderful to be able to breathe whenever we like, or drink a glass of water, or be able to see? When we have them it is so easy to take them for granted.

You may wish to try this exercise.

1. On a blank sheet of paper list all the things that are "wrong" in your life

2. On another sheet of paper list everything that's "not wrong"

then throw away or burn the list of everything that's wrong and focus on whats right

Conscious living list

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If you are experiencing difficulty finding anything positive in your life, you may wish to try this tool to help you get into a more positive space.

Get a pad of paper and write down:

· any happy memories from your life

· people that have loved you, spent time with you, accepted validated and supported you

· anything that others have done for you

· all gifts you have received: